So, Mike and I haven’t done much lately in terms of wedding planning. Maybe it’s because we’ve been über busy with other various activities — end of school for me the teacher; planning a graduation party for my sister, the law student; going to other people’s bridal showers and weddings — or maybe it’s because we want to finally nail down a caterer, but our pending choices have not been contacting us back. Sigh. At least we have a venue, right?
Well, one thing that did fall into place was choosing an officiant. This was something Mike and I hadn’t put too much thought into, unfortunately. Neither of us is what you would call an actively religious person, and we’re planning on having our ceremony outside in Brooklyn Bridge Park (i.e. not a church). So we didn’t really know what we wanted out of our minister/priest/master of ceremonies…except that we wanted our ceremony to be personal. The last thing I’d want is some random person selected haphazardly out of a directory of wedding officials who doesn’t know us and mispronounces our names, or something.
That brings us to the world of online ordination. I’ve heard of people becoming minsters of unheard-of churches via the Internet, but never gave much thought to it, and even thought it somehow tacky…until a friend of a friend was talking to us about how he became ordained to perform his sister’s wedding ceremony. I mean, how nice of an idea is that? And apparently, the online sites that perform such ordination are 100% legitimate and legal (like the Universal Life Church Monastery, the American Fellowship Church, or Dudeism, the Religion of Lebowski*). So then, the lightbulb went on — of course, having a friend do the ceremony is so much more personal then having a random person do it. I mean, I’ve definitely been to ceremonies where the couple had a minister they didn’t know previously, and they turned out lovely; but at the same time, if I have the option of having a friend be a part of our special day, I choose that.
So tentatively, our friend Shawn is going to be our officiant. He’s an amazing guy with the most serene, lovely personality, and I truly do believe he will add something magical to our ceremony. Yes, that sounds cheesy; but it’s true.
*For the record, Dudeism is a real religion — “real” being a relative term here — and Dudeist priests can actually preside over a wedding ceremony, pending state laws. Although, I think it’s a rule that you can’t have your ceremony on Shabbos and instead of wine, you drink a chalice of white Russians at the ceremony.